Stress is becoming an increasing concern in everyday life. Many of us feel pressured to do more, be better, prove ourselves constantly in an ever-demanding business and personal life. The pressure to fill our lives with constant quality events whilst maintaining successful careers and businesses allows for little time to sit and read a book or listen quietly to music. Stress is becoming a major factor in absenteeism from work.
Learning to understand ourselves better is a key to better-improved health and well-being. I often talk about traffic lights with my clients. If the green light is on then the traffic can proceed through the junction, going about its business. When the red light is on all the traffic comes to a standstill and has to wait to be told to move again. The amber light is the warning light, that things will be coming to a standstill soon. We need to become aware of our own personal traffic light signals. They tell us when things are good, bad, or in need of attention.
When we start to experience our own combination of warnings then it is time to take stock of what is happening and look after ourselves better. There are hundreds of symptoms of stress and pressure, from headaches, blurred vision, poor concentration, loss of libido, poor sleeping patterns, irritability.
Becoming aware of our own personal alarm signals gives us important information before things get too seriously wrong.
Sleep is a major part of our support system. How often will someone say 'do not make a quick decision now, sleep on it and see how you feel tomorrow? Often, by the next day, things will seem different. We may well feel calmer, less affected by something or someone, we may look at it in a completely different way. This is time for the conscious mind to take time out from its rational and logical approach and enable the unconscious mind to explore alternative options and perspectives in a free, unrestricted way.
This often happens through dreams. Many people say they do not dream, but research has found that we all dream several dreams each night and are programmed to forget them upon waking up. Fitful and restless sleep or broken sleep patterns can occur when a person is very stressed or anxious and finding it difficult to resolve a situation. Sometimes writing down all the issues or concerns can help to cope better. This enables the mind to be freed from going over the thoughts - everything is on the list and can be referred to when required. Then the thoughts can stop and the mind can become clearer.
This is why it is important to support ourselves in all areas of our lives. We know how important it is to maintain our car, we need it, rely on it for business, picking up children, doing errands, maintaining a social life, so we have it serviced regularly, keep it filled with petrol and oil. We do not expect it to run on empty. Think of treating ourselves with the same commitment.
Sleep is an important part of the support process. Treating it as a positive ending to each day is a big step.
Here are the positive things to think about for better quality and balance in life, all so obvious and yet so often ignored.
- eating a healthy diet, rather than eating quick unhealthy snacks full of sugar and fat is important.
- taking exercise, even just a short power walk for twenty minutes two/ three times a week can be of benefit.
And then making that commitment to proper sleep, by taking several important steps.
- think of winding down a couple of hours before bed.
- eating earlier rather than later in the evening, and not too spicy food
- cut back on alcohol intake in the week. Spirits particularly can cause erratic dreams that can result in an unsettled feeling the next day.
- regular exercise, particularly for someone with a heavy 'mental' based job provides a good diversion
- keep the bedroom clutter-free. Try to keep it as a calm, relaxing place where you go to unwind
- avoid intense conversations late at night. Save them for when both parties are more able to discuss things properly
- ensure that the bedroom smells pleasant, is well ventilated, with a comfortable mattress
- take a relaxing bath or shower pre-bed. Maybe use essential oils or candles. Enjoy washing away the days' stresses.
- maybe play relaxing music, or read a favorite book.
And then just relax in your comfortable bed. Take the pressure off trying to get to sleep. Just allow yourself to focus on relaxing the body and enjoy the quiet time. Sleep often follows quite naturally.
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I am a lifestyle therapist and expert in hypnotherapy, and personal counseling. I am also registered with the Complementary and Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC) and a member of the College of Medicine. A frequent media contributor and writer of 3 books ('Dealing with Stress, Managing its Impact', '101 Days of Inspiration #tipoftheday' and 'Dealing with Death, Coping with the Pain', all on Amazon & with easy to read sections, tips and ideas to help you feel more positive about your life.)